Certainly a book you should read (or audible) is the short book by Sabine Hossenfelder, "Lost in Math". I just encountered it in the last two weeks and am audibling it twice and bought the kindle because it is so good on exactly this topic.

https://www.amazon.com/Lost-in-Math-Sabine-Hossenfelder-audiobook/dp/B07JYLWCHS/

She is an established particle physicist who also admits that physicists are lying all the time in exactly the ways I have been describing. But she does a great job of making concrete informed and positive suggestions on what needs to be done.

You and I are not alone. (That said, when she steps out of her area of expertise -- into my ground -- she also sadly, and I am somewhat sure, unintentionally, lies.)